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​MindWise Institute​​

Dr. Mary Bowles
PsyD, LMFT, RRT, MIAAN, RTM

​Life & Relationships with the Brain in Mind ©

Expert Mental Health Care & Resources

Offering brain-based & neuroscience founded care for:
Individual, Couples, Child, & Family Therapy, and Rapid Trauma (PTSD) & Anxiety Treatment
Life, Relationship, Trauma, Communication, ASD, & ADHD Coaching
Consulting, Public Speaking,  Mediation, Colorado Courts Parenting Coordination & Decision Making (PC/DM)


​​(970)319-1999

 [email protected]

​Mental Health Licensure: 

​Colorado 
– MFT.0001316

Texas 
– MFT 204129

Virtual sessions only as of November, 2021
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If you do not see an available opening that works for your schedule, call or text (970)319-1999 to ask for other available options.

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In practice for 13 years, my clients come to me with complaints about poor communication (not feeling heard or understood, frequent arguing, parenting differences, etc.), of not connecting enough (emotionally, sexually, etc.), financial struggles, extended family issues, infidelity (physical or emotional), stress, resentment, and trauma. I treat individuals who have experienced trauma at any point in life and I will treat them individually or in conjoint sessions with supportive partners, family members, or friends. I even help people figure out if they have trauma or should be concerned about it. I see clients who are trying to learn whether it's time to divorce or if there's hope for a better relationship together. I see families that are trying to get along better and manage life transitions. I work with parents whose children are struggling with behavior, mood, or anxiety issues for any number of reasons. I also see individuals who are overcoming family of origin issues, and relationship stress, among other issues. Overall, I work with individuals and relationships that are struggling, from intimate partners, parent-child relationships, families, to friends, and work relationships.

​Remember, to see me, you're not signing up for a certain number of sessions. In fact, single sessions may be all you need and all you're looking for. You may want to schedule regular weekly or bi-weekly appointments or you may prefer to come in only as needed. I am open to your agenda, not just mine.


I make understanding your brain easy! All my clients easily learn about the neuroscience of the brain, mind, and body so each person is clear about how to work WITH, not AGAINST, theirs and each other's brains! I don't see any of my clients as low functioning or crazy. I will help you understand how all your responses are normal within the context of your own life, and how to focus only on making it become more effective. For example, when we learn to tie our shoes when we're 4 or 5 years old, a neural network is created in our brains. As adults we use that same network when we tie our shoes. All our lifetime experiences are stored in networks that don't require conscious thought to motivate action, just as we don't need to think about tying our shoes; we just tie them. This knowledge also explains why each person in a relationship is correct when their is conflict. their experiences have determined the best approach to a problem and both want to be understood. It's not either individual that is the problem; it's the patterns that exist between them that are the problem. The goal is to change HOW conflict is managed.

If you've been to therapy before and it wasn't effective or just plain sucked, don't give up. Just as you'd never run around on a broken leg if your orthopedic surgeon didn't fix it, don't sit in an unsatisfying life! Therapy has many different modalities and therapists use many different approaches. Sometimes you can come across a therapist that just isn't effective in your case and sometimes you just might not click with your therapist (which can be double the problem when seeking relationship help with more than one person), and some therapists can be flaky and don't have their own life together, but surgeons can fall into all those categories as well. Find the right match for you!

My husband and I recently became empty nesters and decided to travel the US in our RV while we're still young enough to do it easily. Because of this change I have moved my practice online. Feel free to ask about our journey or how this can affect your therapy or coaching. There is great research demonstrating that online therapy is as effective, and sometimes more effective, than in-person therapy.

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​Therapy is not about finding out if you're dysfunction, it's about learning how normal you already are and for discovering options for improving your life.
 

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​Working with me you will get an experienced,  trustworthy, confidential, compassionate, experienced, unbiased, educated, and science-minded Doctor of Psychology and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) trained in Neuropsychotherapy and Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) who uses a direct, but considerate approach. I'm also certified in Rapid Resolution ​Therapy (RRT)​ and Reconsolidation of Traumatic Memories (RTM). Both are forms of rapid memory reconsolidation that painlessly erase the emotion attached to a memory, allowing clients to quickly process trauma and stress without emotionally reliving the event(s). I also offer supervision for clinicians through a systems, Neuropsychotherapy, and Interpersonal Neurobiology lens.

I specialize in all relationships (couples, dating, parenting, and divorce, including prevention, recovery, & preparation, and blending healthy families), trauma, stress, anxiety including PTSD recovery, and many other issues. I draw on my personal and professional experiences to help you learn how to draw on yours and to help you find the happiness and success you're seeking in life. I use humor, neuroscience, lightheartedness, calm, and methodically challenging approaches to educate you about your options and help you fine tune your goals, but you always decide how far you're willing to go to improve your life and your relationships. 

The brain develops from the bottom-up, so interventions for behavioral, emotional, and cognitive change are not going to be effective if we start with a top-down approach (what's that?).

I don't write prescriptions for medication, perfection, or moon chanting (haha, I just googled that and it's a real thing!). However, I do encourage, respectfully challenge, and teach (if necessary) accountability, listening, acceptance, self-challenge, and even mind and brain development (neuropsychotherapy, interpersonal neurobiology). I may suggest that you golf, spa, hunt, or club with each other as a couple if those are things you would or used to like doing together (please note: the last sentence said "club WITH each other"--NOT "club each other."). I always include parents in child therapy and I advocate for both parents and children. I am unbiased, woman-friendly, man-friendly, and child-friendly so do not worry about me judging you. We are all human and I help all people learn to accept humanness in themselves and others.

To achieve effective change, we must work with the brain, not against it.

I jest throughout this page, but I am very dedicated to effective care! So, on a serious note, the first step to success in therapy comes in understanding that asking for help shows strength, not weakness. I approach all my clients from an interpersonal neurobiological perspective and a neuropsychotherapeutic framework, not a pathological approach. This means I rarely give a "diagnosis" because rarely is it needed or accurate according to what we now know about the neuroscience of emotion, thoughts, and behavior.​​​
 Specialty focus:
- Relationships- personal, professional, & academic
  • Couples Relationships -  Gottman Method Couples Therapy (Level 3) - communication, infidelity, sexual & financial problems, parenting, in-laws, divorce recovery & prevention, divorce planning & questioning, blending (step) families
  • Parent/Child Relationships 
  • Parenting
  • Sibling relationships 
  • Professional relationships 
  • Academic Relationships
- Trauma (PTSD)/Stress - Memory Reconsolidation (accelerated, non-exposure treatment), Rapid Resolution Therapy (RRT), Reconsolidation of Traumatic Memories (RTM)
- ADHD Testing and Treatment
- Autism & Autism Spectrum Testing
​- 1st Responders - Fire, Police, Paramedic/EMT, Dispatch, Emergency Department
- Active Duty Military & Veterans

- Anxiety/Panic
- Depression
​- LGBTQ+
​- Consensual/Ethical non-monogamy (CNM, ENM, LS)
- Life, Executive, Academic, & Stress Coaching - supporting you in meeting your goals in all areas of life!

- Love & Relationship coaching
- Therapeutic Mediation
​- Parent Coaching
- Trauma Coaching

- Divorce & Parenting Plan Mediation (Therapeutic Mediation - learning how to communicate more effectively while working through mediation process)
​​- Relationship Mediation
- Family Court Parenting Coordination & Decision Making (PC/DM)

Do not hesitate to contact me to ask questions! I'm a real person and I'll be happy to answer your questions! 
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Here's a great article about the success rates of Marriage & Family Therapy... 
Does Marriage Counseling Work? 8 Surprising Statistics & Facts - By: 
Racheal Tasker

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