Help vs. Capability

As much as you want to help out of love and good intentions, as a parent, when you do too much for a child, a child does not actually think, "Wow, he/she must really love me!" Instead, what he or she begins to believe is, "Wow, he/she thinks I can't do anything!” This can lead to a child feeling incapable. I cannot stress enough; we experience pain for a reason. This is one way we learn...children too. We have to let our children struggle in order to learn they can flourish. It doesn’t make you a bad parent, it makes them more likely to become a happy productive adult.