One of the things I tell my children is to always question what they've been taught; to research and know the truth, even if I was the one who said it. Had I not done the same, I might still be telling my children they'll catch the death of cold if they went without socks in the house and I'd probably still be telling them that I am correct because I am the parent. However, leading with this kind of example doesn't teach humility. I have to be able to say, "I'm sorry, I made a mistake" if I want them to be able to say it. Parents do the best they can with the tools they have available to them at the time.
I'm sure there was no ill intent regarding these types of things when I was growing up. It's what the parental figures in my life knew at the time and what they were taught. One of the nice things about being the parent is being allowed to change the rules!
What are you still doing that your parents did that don't really make sense to you now, but you continue to do them out of habit (or because you hadn't really considered why you do them)?
I'd love to hear what they are too! Please share!
Mary Bowles, PsyD-C, LMFT